haaalp (haaalp) wrote in suckitupdyke,

I broke up with my ex girlfriend a year ago. We were together for 2.5 years. She was devastated and heartbroken by the breakup and immediately started "seeing" other people.

The reason for the breakup was simply that I wasn't happy. I loved her still, but our relationship was stagnant and we were getting lazy and the effort just wasn't happening on either end. Talking didn't help.

In the year since the breakup, we've both hooked up with other people, even tried dating other people, but the fact remains that we still both love one another very much, and we want to try again.

When I asked her to be mine again the other day, she said yes right away. Then, she told me she felt pressured to put a label on it. She says she's scared of committing to me again only to lose me all over someday. I told her I can't predict the future, but this is what I want. We're both better people now, more mature and evolved. I want to be with her.

So, I asked her if she wanted time to think about it and she said yes. Ok. I then ask her if she wants space/for me to back off until she can figure out what she wants. She says no. This confuses me, and I ask her how she wants me to act. She says "just act like normal. Like we're together. I just need more time to think about committing to a relationship."

What the fuck does this mean? How am I supposed to "act" like we're together while she's not technically mine? Since we're not together, I have no right to know if she's seeing/talking to other people, etc. and I feel uncomfortable about it. She keeps assuring me that there is no one else, she loves and wants me, calls me baby, fucks me, sleeps in my bed, etc. but I can't understand why she wont commit if she's willing to do all these other things all the time.

I don't want to give her an ultimatum and risk losing her, but I'm at a loss of how to handle this situation properly without it getting messy. Any advice?
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