ellenlefey (ellenlefey) wrote in suckitupdyke,

Start of a relationship advice

Hello girls!
I am 27 and have been in 5 relationships so far. 4 of them were long-distance as one of us always moved across countries, and never lasted longer than half a year. 4 of my exes dumped me because they did not feel as strongly about me as I did about them. I was actually dumped today because she is still in love with her ex.

There is a clear pattern of my girlfriends dumping me in the first month or so of our relationship.
I don't go all "I love you!" on a first date, if that is what you are thinking. I do let them know I like them and do things people in love do, but I am not crazy. I also do not think there is anything wrong with me. I have a lot of friends and most of my exes really liked me, just did not love me back.
Every time I get dumped, it hurts and I shut down and it takes around a year for me to even consider dating someone else.

So I guess my question is - when you start seeing someone and fall in love, what is the appropriate behaviour in the first month or two? How do you "win her heart"? I know everyone is different, but there must be some golden rules.
Also, is it normal to take a year to start trusting someone again? Even if that relationship was much shorter than that? How do I get back in the game sooner than a year after getting my heart broken?
I am worried I might develop trust issues if they keep on dumping me.

Thanks for reading:)
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